LOCATION: Online and in Ditchling Rd/Fiveways, Brighton
AVAILABILITY: Mondays to Fridays. Mornings and afternoons.
PRICE: £60 - £70 per session
SPECIALISMS:
Relationships
Loss & Bereavement
Trauma
EMDR
Anxiety
Phobias
Depression
Stress and burnout
Life transitions
Identity
Discrimination & marginalisation
Chronic health conditions

Training

Frey is a BACP-accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with over 10 years’ experience spanning private practice, charity services and the NHS. Over that time, he has supported a wide variety of people in navigating their difficulties and creating meaningful change in their lives. This background has given him a strong appreciation of neurodivergence, sexuality, gender and cultural difference, which he carries into the therapy room with him.

Frey has worked extensively with people struggling with anxiety, depression and trauma. Holding a Higher Professional Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling, he has also trained further in approaches such as Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR) Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS). This integrative foundation allows him to offer a flexible, holistic style of therapy, tailored to the needs of each individual.

Approach

Frey offers a calm, grounded presence where you can speak freely and feel understood, even when things are hard to put into words. He listens with care and curiosity, actively exploring your thoughts, feelings and experiences with you.

His aim is to help you untangle your difficulties so you can focus on what matters to you and find more meaning and fulfilment in life. This involves developing new ways of responding to your thoughts and feelings so that you don’t feel pulled around by them. It can also involve exploring your values, identity and the different sides which make up who you are.

Many difficulties are rooted in past experiences, the echoes of which we carry with us in our everyday lives. When this is apparent, Frey can also support you with EMDR.

There is no one-size-fits-all in therapy. Some people like structure while others want to explore more freely. What each of us needs from sessions varies and can shift over time. Frey will work with you to find a pace and approach that suits you.

Relationships

Relationships are central to our wellbeing. While they can offer us a deep sense of security, connection and joy, they can also bring us anguish, anxiety and confusion. Frey can help you explore your experiences with warmth and curiosity so you can make sense of what’s happening rather than feeling caught up in it all.

Alongside focusing on the impacts your relationships are having on you, Frey can help you look at your own relational patterns. The ways we develop to navigate the world and to try to protect ourselves from hurt can be like armour that slowly becomes a cage. You might keep others at a distance by withdrawing, lose touch with yourself by appeasing, or push people away through reacting impulsively.

Frey can help you to recognise the patterns that no longer serve you and begin experimenting with new ways of relating. This process can help you communicate more openly, set healthy boundaries and develop relationships that feel more balanced and fulfilling. In time, you can feel more connected to others and, just as importantly, to yourself.

Loss and Bereavement

Grief can feel like being carried by the tide. Life becomes a struggle to navigate and familiar landmarks disappear, leaving you feeling adrift. It takes time to find steady ground again, but you don’t have to do that alone. Frey offers a space to share the weight of your loss and process it at a pace that feels right for you.

It isn’t only when we lose someone that grief can take hold. It can follow losses of all kinds, like the end of a relationship, or a decline in health. Because grief is so universal and innate, people often feel they should simply be able to move through it, yet it can easily become stuck or tangled.

This doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. It often means the loss is touching parts of your life or identity that need more space and support to work through. Frey can help you explore your grief, reflect on meaning and purpose and find ways to honour your loss. The aim isn’t to move on or forget, but to find steadiness, compassion and a renewed sense of direction as you continue living your life. Sometimes this journey can be supported by EMDR which can help you to process the overwhelming emotions within your loss and soften their impact on your day-to-day wellbeing.

Trauma

Trauma can leave deep marks, shaping how you see yourself, others, and the world. It may follow a single overwhelming event, or build over time from repeated experiences. As well as PTSD, it can contribute to many difficulties such as anxiety, depression, phobias and relationship problems. Whatever you are carrying, Frey offers you support to restore a sense of safety, choice, and self-worth.

EMDR is an evidence-based therapy widely used in the NHS and across the world to help people recover from the impacts of trauma. Frey will work with you to understand the experiences and patterns that are keeping you stuck, and to build the resources you need to feel safe and ready for processing.

Frey will then help you to revisit these experiences, using gentle side-to-side eye movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation. This enables you to feel anchored in the present while connecting to the past, giving your mind and body space to process the ‘stuck’ experiences. You remain in control throughout, working at a pace that feels manageable for you.

The aim is not to erase the past, but to loosen its grip so you no longer feel defined or overwhelmed by it. Over time, many people find they move away from feeling hijacked by old experiences. Things start to feel more grounded and steadier, and you can feel more able to live life on your own terms.